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  1. Darla Bunyan says:

    WOW! I NEED this book! It sure seems to hit me up and down my spine! 🙂

  2. In my marriage for sure .When he does, or doesn’t do, something I don’t like I feel like I have to ‘pay him back’ by not doing something for him as well. I need to turn my hurts over to Jesus, receive a clean heart, and offer that back to my husband.

  3. Hate it when someone’s peeking inside my head/heart/home. “Yes, Lord; Your servant is listening.”

  4. Payback – no one likes it, but everyone seems to do it. The paybacks that bother me the most are the ones, that effect my kids! You teach your kids to turn the other cheek, like the bibles tells us. You can only turn the other cheek so many times, before you have to teach your kids to take up for themselves. It’s sad, that others don’t teach their kids to live christ like.

  5. Our kids truly are a reflection of ourselves. I hate how we see the worst in ourselves come out in our kids. My kids, especially the boys, are always hitting because they were hit or calling names cause they were called. This post made me realize how I do the same thing. Yikes! Thanks for the post.

  6. It seems the teasing and payback always gets out of hand with my brothers. Although we are all adults now we sure don’t act like it sometimes! My response has always been avoidance just because I don’t know how to break the pattern.

  7. I hate to admit it, but I do this most in my marriage…we have a long-established pattern of one-upmanship (in the worst way!). Thanks for the reminder that this is damaging…sometimes habits seem insignificant when they’ve been around so long!
    Have a blessed day 🙂

  8. No one wants to be in a payback game but more often than not, we forgot that we’re already doing it especially to those very close to us. All I can say is, be open with criticisms and those who criticize should be mindful that it’s not hurtful and say it a nice way. 🙂